Family Law Mediation – Family Violence Under Review

If you have ever sat at the back of a courtroom listening to estranged parents telling a magistrate or a judge about the best interests of their children, you will have some understanding of the difficulties faced by the judiciary.  The isssue of family law mediation when possible family violence is involved is a

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Family Violence. It's sometimes hard to know who is responsible?

 

continuing issue. There may well be reason to be cautious about the children’s safety with one parent or the other but rarely is there a complete evidence trail that can help a magistrate make good decisions in the best interests of the children.  Often, that is because the State system has information about domestic violence or child safety, for instance, and the Federal system does not.

A report just published by the Australian Law Reform Commission may change all that.  Attorney General Nicola Roxon said the report contained recommendations for reform across government, enabling State and Federal systems to share information.

A recent article in the Herald Sun discusses possible law changes on family violence recommended by the commission.  According to this article,

“The commission has recommended that the same understanding of what constitutes family violence be used across relevant Commonwealth legislation.

It said this should make legal and other proceedings which involve family violence seamless and more effective for both victims and decision makers.

The commission recommended that decision makers undertake appropriate and regular training to improve consistency in how family violence is treated across legislative frameworks.

It also said better identification of, and responses to, the disclosure of family violence was needed.”

Any processes is welcome when it comes to improving family law mediation and examing family violence under a single jurisdiction could be a step in the right direction to improving the problem in the legal system.

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Anxiety – Does my Anxiety Look Fat in this Mirror?

Story by Rosalin Primrose

Here is a circular argument brought to life.  British research into Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) has uncovered the unsettling information that women induced by researchers to stare into mirrors for only ten minutes at a time became more anxious and depressed.

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Mirror gazing increases anxiety

For BDD sufferers, it may be a chicken and egg situation in which distress about the way one looks leads to checking out the body in a mirror, which leads to standing before a mirror finding fault many times a day which increases ANXIETY and depression..  For the experimental subjects, life got worse too……

London’s Daily Mail reports:

  • Ten minutes of looking at reflection increases anxiety
  • On average women stare in the mirror 38 times a day

“Volunteers who gazed at their reflections for up to ten minutes at a time gradually became more and more anxious and depressed about their looks – even if they were perfectly happy with them to start with.

Research found volunteers who gazed at their reflections for up to ten minutes at a time became more anxious and depressed about their looks.

The findings were surprising, scientists admitted, because they had only expected prolonged mirror gazing to adversely affect volunteers in the experiment who had already been diagnosed with BDD – where sufferers permanently worry about their looks or shape.”

Other surveys have shown that there are great differences between the mirror behaviours of men and women.

The Mail reports:

“British women stare in the mirror around 38 times every day and men 18 times a day and women are much more critical of their appearance than men.

Some research suggests up to eight out of ten women are dissatisfied with their reflection.”

Do you recognise yourself in this anxiety inducing behavior? Then maybe it’s time to turn the mirrors to the wall?   If you have trouble changing this non-serving behavior than seek help from a  mental health professional.


Rosalin Primrose MA
Registered Psychologist
Mob: 0424 002 640

 

 

 

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Mental Health – Laughter is the Very Best ‘Medicine’

Author:
Rosalin Primrose
Registered Psychologist

Laughter is the best medicine – that’s a saying from my childhood which turns out to be very true, and there is lots of research to support that folk wisdom these days as a way to promote good mental health.

We think of yoga as physical stretching and exercise that is good for building core strength and flexibility, maybe quietening the mind.  And it is most often used that way.  However, Laughter Yoga was developed in India by a medical doctor who saw that laughter had many health benefits – and it didn’t matter to the body/mind whether laughter was spontaneous or manufactured.  The whole organism benefited just the same.

Dr. Madan Kataria founded Laughter Yoga International and it’s now spread all over the world.  This is what he says about laughter as a way to promote good mental health:

“Laughter Yoga helps to change the mood within minutes by releasing certain chemicals from your brain cells called endorphins. You will remain cheerful and in a good mood throughout the day and will laugh more than you normally do.

Laughter Yoga is like an aerobic exercise (cardio workout) which brings more oxygen to the body and brain which makes one feel more healthy and energetic. Laughter Yoga is a single exercise routine which reduces physical, mental and emotional stress simultaneously.

Laughter Yoga strengthens the immune system which not only prevents you from falling sick, but also helps  to heal a variety of illnesses like hypertension, heart disease, diabetes, depression, arthritis, allergies, asthma, bronchitis, backache, fibromyalgia, migraine headaches, menstrual disorders, cancer and many others.”

To read more of Dr Kataria’s amazing work click on this link.

Here’s what famous funny man John Cleese has to say about laughter yoga.

YouTube video: John Cleese reports on Laughter Yoga

Laughter Yoga seems to be a contradiction in terms but the practice is spreading.  Many local groups have sprung up wordwide as a reuslt of Dr Kataria’s work.  Here are just two examples:

A local group at Cotton Tree Park at Maroochydore on the beautiful Sunshine Coast were quick to embrace the benefits of Laughter Yoga.   Check out this website to read about this fun local group which meets every Saturday morning at 9 a.m. (even if it’s raining)  http://www.laughtersunshinecoast.com/

Follow this link for the Laughter Yoga group in New Farm Park, Brisbane, which happens every Saturday morning.

By searching Dr Kataria’s main website you will be able to discover laughter yoga groups all around the world.  There is sure to be one close to you….  Ho, ho, ho…ha, ha, ha…he, he, he…..

Lots of laughter and good mental health go hand in hand.

Rosalin Primrose MA

Registered Psychologist
Mob: 0424 002 640
Email: RosalinPrimrose@gmail.com

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Mental Health Check-up for ‘Stinking Thinking’

Article by Rosalin Primrose
Senior Author

Choosing your thoughts carefully is a key skill to maintaining good MENTAL HEALTH.  Often, we can’t do much about the things that happen around us and to us – but we can take note of the thoughts we have about those events.   You might have heard the term Stinking Thinking but perhaps you haven’t checked your own thoughts to see where they lead you.  Psychologist Laura L. Smith has a checklist you can use to see how your habits of thought might be generating healthy or distressing mental states.

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'Awfulising' aggrivates stress

 

Here is Laura’s checklist to help you work through your thoughts and give yourself a MENTAL HEALTH CHECK-UP:

  • Awfulizing: this distortion involves making a mountain out of a molehill. In other words, thinking that a situation is far worse than it really is.
  • Negative predicting: people who use this distortion predict horrible events that haven’t and may never happen.
  • Mind reading: this involves believing that people are thinking certain (usually negative) thoughts without checking out the truth.
  • Self-tagging: labels are useful on food items in the grocery store; they are less useful when applied to a person. Self-tagging involves calling yourself negative names like stupid, idiot, ugly, or so on.
  • Shoulding: I should have known better or I should have done something differently. These statements are not really useful and often involve self-scolding.

To most of us, it feels like when something negative affects us, we automatically feel bad and then start thinking about what happened and how it affects us.  In reality, when something happens, your mind must first make sense and meaning of it, before feelings (distressing or pleasurable) are generated.  That’s the point at which you can choose how to think about the event and meaning it has for you.

If you notice that you have a case of Stinking Thinking that is making life stressful, ask for some help from a psychologist expert at Cognitive Behavioural Therapies (CBT).  Do yourself  a favor and take this quick MENTAL HEALTH CHECK-UP.

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is used extensively as a primary treatment for Medicare clients under the Better Access Scheme in Australia.

Rosalin Primrose MA

Registered Psychologist
Mob: 0424 002 640

Email: RosalinPrimrose@gmail.com

 



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Mental Illness May Go Untreated

By Rosalin Primrose

One in five Americans is reported to be suffering from some form of mental illness but only 39% of these was using prescription drugs to treat it.  This means that mental illness may go untreated.  Where Americans go, can Australians be far behind?  Our shared focus on ‘getting ahead’ leads us to be unsatisfied with what we have and what we are, suggesting that if we can just achieve something more, we can experience the good life.  USA Today reports that:

“An estimated 8.7 million American adults had serious thoughts of suicide in the past year. Of those, 2.5 million made suicide plans and 1.1 million attempted suicide, according to the report.

Although about 20% of American adults (45.9 million) reported any mental illness in 2010, only 39.2% of that group said they got treatment, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration report shows.

Mental illness is defined as having had “a diagnosable mental, behavioural or emotional disorder,” such as anxiety disorders or obsessive-compulsive disorders.

“People might be afraid they can’t do anything about it and don’t seek help,” says Peter Delany, director of the substance abuse and mental health administration’s center for statistics. “But if we take the view that mental health disorders are like physical health disorders, like diabetes or heart disease, we’d find treatment is effective. People are going to get better.”

The American report cites cost as a significant barrier to psychological treatment but here in Australia, Medicare operates a Better Access scheme that provides funding for people seeking help through Medicare approved providers.  Your GP can assess with you whether you need a Mental Health Plan under that scheme.  Don’t let your possible mental illness go untreated.

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Stress and Depression Management with Blogtool

By Rosalin Primrose

Blogs and other on line tools, according to a recent article, can be great ways to help manage stress and depression, that can rob people of their creative energy and drive.

One of the mechanisms that keeps distress in place is the secrecy we practice when facing difficulties that may seem shameful or not consistent with how we want others to see us.

“It took Sarah Tincher 19 years to seek help for her depression — but before she began helping herself, she was already creating an online community to help other students with similar disorders.

The sophomore journalism major is the creator of TerpSecret, a WordPress blog where users can anonymously post their deepest secrets and fears. She created the site — an offshoot of PostSecret, the popular series where people mail in secrets anonymously — in July, while deep in the midst of her own depression and anxiety.

At the time, Tincher was just looking for a way to help herself get through each day; posting her feelings seemed to help, at least a little. But in the seven months since she started the site, more than 700 university students have subscribed. Just like Tincher, hundreds have used the site as a similar tool for managing mental health, and Tincher herself finally sought treatment for disorders she said she’s had since she was a child.

Until now, Tincher has never told the site’s followers she’s the one spending dozens of hours a week reading and reposting anonymous messages. But the girl with all the secrets has decided to come forward, in hopes that others will realize how common mental health disorders are.

“I have secrets and I have problems just like everyone else, so I started it as a way for me to share my problems anonymously, and I know other people can relate,” Tincher said. “Seeing people that have the same secrets as you makes you feel a lot less alone and like you’re not isolated.”

This brave student lucked into a way to help herself and ended up helping many more.  Journal writing about troubling issues and feelings has long been a part of managing distress.  Blogging simply takes your journaling into the public domain, while still protecting your identity if you want that.

One of the most healing things available to us is finding out that, what we’ve experienced and might be feeling, is shared by many others and is normal, given the circumstances we are up against.

Although Sarah finally found a way to deal with her stress and depression problems, trained mental health  professionals may help you get on the path to helping with these problems more quickly.

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Stress and Depression Go Hand in Hand

by Rosalin Primrose   Mob: 0424 002 640

Despite our global image as laid back, fun loving people, Australians chalk up some of the longest working hours – and the trend has become more marked in the past couple of years, since the Global Financial Crisis made us all more anxious.

Research published in Europe shows what we all knew, that those who are locked into long hours and highly competitive jobs are most at risk of a major depressive illness – STRESS AND DEPRESSION go hand in hand. High stress levels leads to higher risk of depression.

Susan Donaldson James reported the following on Jan. 26, 2012:

“On a “lucky” day at her job at a well-known apparel company, Arielle Smith worked a 10-hour shift with only 20 minutes for lunch — and many weekends, she worked without overtime pay.

“I never slept because I was so stressed about what would happen the next day,” said the 27-year-old fashion designer from New York City. “I wasn’t supposed to leave the office at all, except to run work errands. I thought about switching jobs every single day.”

Her workload eventually took its toll: She was medicated for anxiety and depression.

Work can be depressing, that much most people know. But now, a European study suggests that those who work long hours are twice as likely to experience a major depressive episode.

In a report published in the Jan. 25 online journal Plos ONE, those working more than 11 hours a day are at greatest risk.

Researchers at the Finnish Institute of Occupational Health and at University College in London followed 2,000 middle-aged government workers in Britain and saw a link between overtime work and depression.”

While older workers are likely to be more prone to depression and anxiety disorders because of heavy work loads, everybody benefits from a healthy balance between work and leisure, sleep, family and friendship time.  Self-employed Queenslanders report they are running faster just to survive, while the economy remains sluggish.  As this study indicates that STRESS INCREASES RISK OF DEPRESSION, it is essential to guard against depression, so consult your GP and get help if you think you are at risk.  Stress and depression really do go hand in hand.

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Parenting support

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There is an encouraging little book out for parents looking for PARENTING SUPPORT , written by my colleague Dr. Bob Jacobs of the Parenting Centre at Maleny.  Read more about the book  here.  Called Perfect Parents: Perfect Children, it tells stories from Dr. Bob’s practice experience of how parents have learned to support their children’s developing emotional intelligence.

Here’s what Dr Bob has to say about his book…

This book is about changing perspectives about parenting, our children, and ourselves. It advocates for a shift from the traditional ‘reward and punishment’ parenting paradigm to one of demonstrating unconditional acceptance and love, regardless of our children’s  compliance or achievement. Through personal stories of the families Dr. Bob has worked with this book makes clear that we do not need to ‘control’ or ‘tame’ our children, and suggests ideas of how to eliminate power-struggles and put the joy back into parenting.

“Perfect Parents, Perfect Children” is about celebrating that we and our children are already perfect, and instilling a steady belief in our intrinsic value, which is not conditional on our achievements.

 

For me, it was good to be reminded that, if you miss a golden opportunity to parent better, there will be another one coming up.  You don’t have to waste time blaming or shaming yourself, just be ready for the next chance your kids will provide.  PARENTING SUPPORT is an ongoing project….

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Rosalin Primrose is a trusted and well respected psychologist on the Sunshine Coast and has a wealth of experience working with all aspects of psychologycounsellingchild therapy, mediation and dispute resolution.  

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Counselling – Individual and Relationship

  • Gain freedom from depression and anxiety
  • Manage unexpected and traumatic changes in your life
  • Improve damaged relationships with yourself and others
  • Deal with trauma and old psychological wounds
  • Change destructive or inappropriate behaviour  

Cognitive Behavioural Therapyis a a “talking therapy”.  CBT aims to solve problems concerning dysfunctional emotions, behaviours, and cognitions through a systematic procedure which is goal-oriented.  The term CBT is used in diverse ways to designate behaviour therapy and/or cognitive therapy.

Business Dispute Resolution saves time and money, avoids loss of valuable workers, increases productivity and enhances teams.

Family Dispute Resolution creates the best options for you and your family which helps preserve family finances for the well being of family members.  It is quicker and you control the outcomes.

Child Therapy and Play Therapy refers to a way of engaging children in play behaviors which reveals emotional and behavioral problems and a process of dealing with these issues.

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If you have never had to use the services of a counsellor, psychologist or mental health therapist it is understandable that you may be unsure of what to expect.  Click on this link to find a quick run down of what to expect when you contact or work with Rosalin.

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