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Divorce Party?

Written by Rosalin Primrose

A US report suggests that, as separation and divorce become so much a part of life, some former partners are throwing divorce parties to mark the end of their domestic relationships.

You are invited written on strips of paper

A divorce party may help transition from married to single

As part of the de-stigmatisation of divorce, it is being viewed by some health professionals as a move in the right direction.  But the success of any such party would depend a lot on the circumstances of the split.

I attended a gathering in Canada a decade or so ago that had the same intention.  It was dubbed a composting party and the participants were each asked to bring a compostable object symbolic of what the end of that couple’s relationship meant to them.

The contributions included fruit and vegetables, soil, nuts, yeast – whatever people felt would help make good compost for the future of everybody there. And it all went into a bucket for a mix up and was later dug into the fruit orchard.

“Separation does not always have to be the catastrophe we’ve been conditioned to believe. “Now that we’ve had several decades of high divorce rates, we may know how to do divorce a little better and in a way that minimizes the pain,” says Andrew Cherlin, author of The Marriage-Go-Round and a professor at Johns Hopkins. His theory about a possible rise in happy divorces: where 50 years ago, divorce was so stigmatized only the most miserable left their marriages, now the “moderately unhappy” are getting out too, which might make for some less acrimonious splits.

Christine Gallagher, a divorce party planner in L.A., says business has exploded in recent years. “The party’s very cathartic,” she says, “it’s a way of saying ‘The End.’?”

“I’ve heard of civilized divorces,” says wedding-cake impresario Sylvia Weinstock, but most of her clients aren’t so lucky. She makes cakes for divorce parties, but the lion’s share are for celebrations after bitter divorces. “A good many of our clients do not end things so happily,” she says.”

No pressure!  There seems little point in trying to compose yourself enough to throw a divorce party if you are traumatised and still suffering.  In the case of the composting party, only one spouse attended because the other didn’t feel ready. But the group of friends reasoned that composting can happen at any time and the result is new growth!

For professional help for divorce and separation issues contact:
Rosalin Primrose
Phone: 0424 002 640
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